Some common reasons for relationship breakdown

You maybe at the stage of just  thinking about breaking up, or you may have just broken up with your partner.  At this point in time you may feel that you’re the only person that this has happened to.  This is not true though. At some point in their lives, everyone will have a relationship that fails.

Breaking up is probably one of the most difficult things to do when you are in a relationship. Even though the pain of breaking up is intense, it can become almost unbearable when your heart still wants to be with that person, even though your head may be telling you the reality of the situation.

This tug-of-war between the heart and mind will take an inevitable toll on you. Therefore, you might consider taking the “easy” way out, and try to get back with your ex, be it your lover or spouse! However, as we all know the “easy” way may be fraught with difficulties, that at times may seem impossible to overcome. Before looking at ways of getting back with an ex, let’s first consider what has gone wrong with the relationship.

Some of the common reasons for relationships to breakdown are:

We’ve got nothing in common:

Often, a common background, a common interest, or even common  opinions are given as reasons for compatibility, and hence, a happy and long-lasting relationship. Conversely, when a couple doesn’t share interests, opinions, or backgrounds, then the  partners may become concerned by the lack of this common ground between them. As these differences play on their mind, they may then start to drift apart, and in so doing deepening the rift between them.

Both viewpoints have some validity, however having different areas of interest in not a crime, nor  should it be allowed to become a reason for incompatibility. No two people are exactly alike (even if they are twins there will be some differences.). Also, you will only broaden your horizons by mixing with people whose interests, likes and dislikes are different to yours.

There’s no physical attraction between us:

A lack of physical attraction between couples is given as a major cause break-up. Some men may secretly think that their partner or spouse is not sexy enough, leading to them becoming bored  with their relationship, and looking for someone else. Whilst women may become caught up in the drudgery of everyday life, and start to consider the act of dressing up to be a task in itself. Gradually, partners will start to lose interest in one another and drift apart. This in turn affects their sex life which is an important part of any healthy relationship. All these factors will lead to more arguments, more dissatisfaction with the relationship, and ultimately in breakdown of the relationship.

Difficulty of repairing your relationship

Our egos and us:

It can appear to be difficult if not downright impossible to bring a failing relationship back on track. This can be put down solely to the egos of the people involved. Their pride and ego can stop them from kissing and making up. However, once your swallow your pride and put your ego on the back burner, you will discover how easily you can get your relationship back where you want it to be.

Perhaps the most difficult in all of this is admitting that you were in the wrong, after all no-one likes to admit that they made a mistake. However, if you are the one that was at fault for whatever is going wrong with the relationship, then you need to be big enough to say sorry. Then you can get down to the kissing and making up.

Money, or lack of it:

This is possibly the most common reason given for relationship difficulties. However it is not the whole reason. Many people have little or no spare cash, especially at the moment when the economy is tough. But people use this as a reason for breaking up to avoid looking at their role in some of the other points raised here. A lack of spare cash to go and eat out, or take exotic holidays, will tend to strain an already fragile relationship, and may make people take it out on their partner. Try not to use money as an excuse, look at what is really happening in your relationship, and work on the things that you can fix.

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